Consent is when both people can say “Yes” or “No.” Both people absolutely, categorically want to be sexual with one another. From my perspective on this, it is so secretive and hidden, the pastor is trying to keep it unknown. So, the capacity for an open, honest conversation in this relationship is almost impossible. Consent is not possible. Outside of ministry, all the other helping professions understand the complications of the ethics around this. That is why sexual relationships with people you are supporting and helping are prohibited.