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"And the son said to him: ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you; I no longer deserve to be called your son.’ But his father ordered his servants, ‘Quickly, bring the finest robe and put it on him; put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Take the fattened calf and slaughter it. Then let us celebrate with a feast, because this son of mine was dead, and has come to life again; he was lost, and has been found.’ Then the celebration began."Jesus of Nazareth, the parable of The Prodigal Son, Luke 15:21-24 -
The accounts presented here are drawn from actual letters, emails or text messages received from validly ordained Catholic priests needing help. The priest's name and identifying information or location may have been modified to protect his privacy.
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November 2020
As often happens in our work in caring for priests who are in desperate need, one priest we assisted in a small way was deeply overcome with gratitude, and so he immediately thought of a suffering brother priest struggling terribly to meet even the basic necessities of life.
Father Tim contacted us seeking a competent Spiritual Director after his difficulty in finding one in his diocese. After we referred him to a very experienced, very holy priest for spiritual direction, Father Tim was so thankful with our immediate, caring support that he couldn’t wait to share his good fortune with his poor brother priest, Father Charlie. The concerned Father Tim emailed me the anxious note below:
“Good Morning, Joe!
“Praised be Jesus Christ! I was glad to receive your email about the correct priest to contact for spiritual direction . . .
“My friend doesn’t know I’m writing to you and he may have written to you already, but just in case he hasn’t, I thought I would. He is Father Charlie, a priest who is receiving about half the help he was before, though he didn’t complain when he told me about it the other day. He’s grateful for whatever he receives.”
“I hadn’t been in contact with him since June because of my dad’s health problems and my own, and when I finally contacted him just a few days ago he told me about his situation.
“I told him about your apostolate and that he ought to contact you because maybe you could help him. The latest cell phone number I have for Father Charlie is . . . He has a new address, but I don’t know what it is. I forgot to ask him for it after he moved from . . .
“I hope you are doing well, and I hope Men of Melchizedek is flourishing. It is my firm belief Jesus our High Priest will give a flourishing apostolate to you after all you’ve suffered for Him and His priests, in addition to all the good you’ve done for us for so many years, most of which I would bet came about because you answered “Yes” to Jesus when He asked if you were willing to suffer for what you were requesting for His priests.
“I know there were many joys for you, too, which He gave to you because He loves you and wanted to reward all your efforts for His priests.
“I won’t say anything to Father Charlie about my having written to you just in case you’re not able to help him right now. Hopefully he’s already written to you, and I’m behind as I usually am.
“God bless you, Joe, and all who work with you at Men of Melchizedek. Please be assured of my prayers and I ask for yours for me . . . In Jesus and Mary, Fr. Tim”
We contacted Father Charlie, and he was overcome with emotion. As we’ve witnessed so many times before, Father Charlie was just too embarrassed to call us; it’s not in his nature to ask for help. Through his humble tears he cried, “Priests aren’t supposed to ask for help, we’re supposed to give help.” But who is going to assist and care for our wounded priests, if not you and me? Who will assure them they are not forgotten? Who will be their hope if you and I are not the face, the hands and the heart of Christ for them?
We assured Father Charlie we have many faithful caring Partners in Mission like you, who love him and want the best for him, and like Our Lady, are eager to help him in whatever ways he needs MOM the most. Father Charlie just couldn’t believe it!
"For the needy shall not always be forgotten, nor shall the hope of the afflicted parish forever." Psalm 9:19
October 2020
Sometimes the priesthood can be so incredibly stressful, demanding and draining, that a priest honestly may not know who to turn to for caring and confidential support. He can become completely vulnerable and just plain worn out.
After 35½ years of passionate ministry, Father Roger was on the fast track to a breakdown, severe burnout or worse, death. His life was a constant barrage of intense trials, especially dealing with the tragedies associated with parish closings and mergers, and multiple archdiocesan assignments, which he felt he could not refuse. Add to that ministering to the lost and forgotten, responding to the late-night, desperate calls for hospital emergencies, performing funerals, administering Baptisms, celebrating weddings, and the plethora of daily parish duties as a lone pastor . . . well, you get the picture!
Then, unexpectedly a new opportunity entered his life, captivating him and leading him to ponder another direction. This was a path away from priestly ministry and away from the vocation he loved. Eventually it left leaving Father Roger virtually penniless and alone.
“Dear Mr. Maher,
“In our recent telephone conversation, you asked me to write you a letter describing my most recent financial situation. As we talked about, in May I turned 72 years old.
“I served the Archdiocese of . . . for 35½ years and left in good standing to get married.
“The marriage lasted for two years, during which my life savings were greatly depleted.
“Currently I live in a very small room in a local motel in . . . My only source of income is a monthly Social Security check for $961.00 which covers a little more than half my rent.
“Social Services provides me with food stamps each month which does not allow me to purchase any prepared foods, only frozen and canned items, milk, juice, fruit and other such items.
“I cannot purchase my toiletries, over the counter medicines such as aspirin or Tylenol etc. Also, items such as rotisserie chicken is not allowed.
“With the little savings I have left, I can’t afford clothing or transportation. I have no car because the insurance would be impossible. Rent is my #1 priority and that is where my Social Security is used.
“With winter coming and the bad weather ahead, I am scared about what will happen when I can no longer afford my rent.
“And so, I come to you and ask for whatever financial help you are in a position to offer.
“It is very difficult for me to ask and beg, but I have no other place to turn.
“God bless Men of Melchizedek for all you do for the priesthood.
“Fraternally, Rev. Roger . . .”
For us here at MOM, Father Roger’s story is not unique. We are all vulnerable at times, and sometimes we are so overwhelmed by unrelenting challenges that, without adequate support, we just simply give up. On our first phone call, Father Roger said that he wished he had known about us earlier. Well, there are many more Father Roger’s out there who, without our caring assistance, would have no one else to turn to. Because of your prayerful support, our priests don’t have to shoulder life’s burdens alone, or feel isolated in their struggles.
"For I know well the plans I have in mind for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare, not for woe! Plans to giveyou a future full of hope. When you call me, I will listen to you. When you look for me, you will find me."
Jeremiah 29:11-13
September 2020
The dreadful effects of the COVID-19 pandemic continue to impact the lives of our suffering Catholic priests, like Father Bert below, who was unable to work for four months. Then, tragically, he suffered a devastating heart attack during a violent assault by an intruder who broke into his small apartment. Father Bert is slowly returning to work now and good health, but badly needed car repairs could easily put him out of work again.
“Dear Joe,
“I want to thank you most sincerely for the $250.00 check you sent. Your generosity is so very much appreciated. The check was very helpful in allowing me to get some medicine, food and to pay some bills. I hope someday I can have these financial burdens behind me, but I have learned that it is a good exercise in trusting Divine Providence.
“Our insurance plan at work was just renewed at the beginning of June and, of course, the price went up, so that is another bite from [my] check. From all indications most of the places I go to see my clients should be opening up in August, so that mileage will help.
“You asked me to update you on my financial picture, so here goes. I was in the hospital after a heart attack and the trauma I suffered (a stranger broke into my apartment and stole my wallet and phone and beat me in the head, neck and back.) I am OK, but it took me a long time to feel safe again. Anyway, I now have over $2,000.00 in hospital bills, so that is exciting.
“On top of that, the Diocese was giving me a little money, but they did not withhold taxes (although they told me they would.) Now I have a tax bill to pay of about $1,800.00. This was also the result of me cashing in an annuity my mother left me (all that was left of what she willed to me when she died) and not having enough tax withheld from that. Oh well . . . I am trying to chip away at that.
“You mentioned my car. Well, it has begun to have problems too (of course). I know it needs tires and breaks. But I have noticed that when I drive above 60 mph it shakes very violently. So much so that anything on the seats rattles. UGH. But I will try to find out what is wrong and see what I can do.
“My sisters and a friend have been giving me food money once in a while and that has helped.
“Joe, I am only sharing this so that you know that my need is genuine and because I have really grown to trust you. What I mean is that I can share all of this and I don’t feel like I am complaining, and I hope you know that I am not asking for anything. I know you care about me and it is great to have someone I can just be honest with and ‘lay it all out.’ Thank you for the loving care you offer me.
“Please know that I pray for you, MOM . . . I hope I haven’t overwhelmed you. Again, I am not asking for anything. I just wanted to respond to your request for an update and I am so glad to have you in my life. Sincerely, Father Bert”
"One person gives extravagantly yet grows still richer; another gives sparsely yet is the poorer. The person who confers benefits on others will be amply enriched, and the person who refreshes others will in turn be refreshed."
Proverbs 11:24-25
August 2020
As the awful effects of the virus pandemic continue to affect the lives of so many, some of our suffering priests, like Father Mike below, are deeply grateful for your prayers, support and encouragement. Because of you, Father Mike, who was one of our incarcerated priest-prodigal sons, was able to avoid homelessness after paying his debt to society. He now lives a spiritually powerful life of prayer, penance and service.
“Dear Joe,
“I am writing to acknowledge the grant I recently received from Men of Melchizedek and to thank you and MOM for this life-changing assistance, especially because of the employment uncertainties so many of us have had to face due to the COVID-19 pandemic.
“As you know, I have been the beneficiary of MOM since its founding, and in this past year it has been my great privilege and great joy also to volunteer with you in caring for my brother priests who are in prison or jail.
“After my own incarceration, the plans I had made to live fell through at the last minute. I was spared from a homeless shelter only through the kindness of a friend and your advice, encouragement and support.
“The city where I am required to reside is very expensive, and at 71, I am facing health issues (cardiac, orthopedic and vascular difficulties), and the reality that it doesn’t get better from here.
“I have been living on Social Security (which is not enough for even a modest room at market rates) and my small savings. I am, obviously, very concerned about what will become of me over the next several years since employment is now very hard to come by.
“The MOM grant relieves some of that pressure. I can keep up with my current bills and also begin to think more realistically about my future.
“I live simply, as I ought to do; but I’m also living with dignity and a degree of security which, absent the assistance I am receiving from MOM, I would not be able to do.
“The work MOM is doing is of great importance, not only to the men who directly benefit from it, but also to the Church and to society. You are ministering at the margins, as Pope Francis likes to say, and you are doing so in a way that takes up where the bishops and religious superiors all too often fail: in caring for the least and most despised of Jesus’ brothers. I am so grateful for your help!
“I know you pray every day for all of us in the MOM community. Please know that I also remember you, the board, the donors and the beneficiaries of your ministry in prayer and at Mass every day. “May God, who began this good work in you, bring it to completion!” (Phil. 1:6).
“Gratefully, Father Mike”
“My prayer is that your love may more and more abound in understanding
and experience . . . so that with a clear conscience . . .
you may learn to value the things that really matter . . .
It is my wish that you may be found rich in the harvest of justice
which Jesus Christ has ripened in you,
to the glory and praise of God.” Philippians 1:9-11
July 2020
As we all have been dreadfully affected by the ravages of the Coronavirus, some of our suffering priests, who were barely able to survive before the awful effects of the COVID-19 pandemic, now face dire financial consequences due to job loss. For some, like Father Bob below, this could mean eviction and homelessness.
“Dear Joe, I am writing to ask if MOM might be able to provide me with some financial assistance. I was ordained for the Archdiocese . . . where I ministered until I was removed in 2002. Since that time, I have struggled to find consistent work that would allow me to provide for myself . . .
“A year ago, the Archdiocese removed all the financial support I had been receiving – a small salary, a modest housing allowance and reimbursement for my health insurance premiums. As a result of this, I was compelled to hire a canon lawyer at my own expense . . .
“The Vatican found officially in my favor – ordering the Archbishop to restore my support plus back pay. However, the Diocese filed an appeal with the Vatican and it is unclear when that decision will be rendered. Despite the fact that the bishop has been explicitly instructed to continue supporting me while this case is on appeal, he has categorically refused to do so.
“After months of unsuccessful job hunting, I was finally able to find employment as an independent contractor with a local company this February. I had only worked for 6 weeks when I was furloughed as a direct result of the COVID-19 pandemic.
“The company has not indicated when I might return to work, but as my job requires extensive travel, I fear it might be some time before I am to resume working again . . .
“Joe, my monthly expenses include $1,020 for rent and utilities . . . a $778 health insurance premium (I seriously considered dropping my health insurance but did not at the insistence of my spiritual director), $50 a month for car insurance plus various other expenses.
“I am a frugal person and try to spend no more than $3 to $4 a day on food. This is one of the easier ways to trim my expenses as I have more control over what I eat then other things like rent or health insurance . . .
“Is there any way that MOM might be able to spare $600 a month until I am able to resume working? I cannot even express what a blessing that temporary help would be for me right now.
“Be assured that whatever your decision, I will continue to keep you and your incredible apostolate close to my heart and in my prayers. I am attaching a copy of my most recent health insurance premium invoice. I will also send you a rent notice . . . Sincerely, Father Bob”
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,
when you face trials of many kinds.
Realize that when your faith is tested, this makes for endurance.
Let endurance come to its perfection so that you may be fully mature
and lacking in nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom,
you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault,
and it will be given to you. James 1:2-5
June 2020
June is traditionally celebrated as the month honoring the Sacred Heart of Jesus Christ the High Priest. This great Feast Day celebrating the mercy and compassion of our God of Infinite and Unconditional Love, occurs this year on Friday, June 19th. It is an especially appropriate time to remember all our beloved Catholic priests and their many selfless sacrifices for all of us.
June 20th marks the exciting beginning of summer this year, when our hearts and minds anticipate the rejuvenating activities of much-needed vacations! But for many of our suffering priests, the adventurous days of summer will be filled with concern, worry and the intense anxiety of how to pay for the most basic necessities of life . . . unless you and I come to their aid.
Your prayers and generous financial assistance are urgently needed to provide critical, life-saving resources to assist our priests in distress. Some elderly priests who were removed from ministry because of decades old allegations, like Father Stanley below, seek your mercy, kindness and compassion just to make it through another day!
“Dear Joe . . .
“Unfortunately, given my age (76), several physical disabilities, and unemployable status (since the grand jury report last year) I have lost much of my income.
“I currently receive a Social Security payment of $1,000 a month (and about $100 a month in food stamps).
“However, my monthly expenses, including rent, utilities, health insurance (mostly Medicare), extra health insurance (and expenses), car expenses – come to a total of about $1,500 a month.
“As you can see, I’m now in deficit spending and have exhausted the little savings I had.
“This has reached . . . a crisis because my car (14 years old with over 151,000 miles) has had a breakdown and threatens my access to family, friends, groceries and Church.
“I was just wondering if . . . [MOM] will be offering any support in the foreseeable future. Thank you . . . Fr. Stanley”
“Come to me, all you who are weary and find life burdensome,
and I will refresh you.
Take my yoke upon your shoulders and learn from me,
for I am gentle and humble of heart.
Your souls will find rest, for my yoke is easy and my burden light.”
Matthew 11:28-30
May 2020
During this month dedicated to Our Blessed Mother, only your prayers and generous financial assistance provide the resources and support desperately needed to help troubled priests in distress, especially now, as so many of our ill, frail, and elderly priests are experiencing extreme hardships because of the current health crisis. Many of them, like Father Sam below, seek your mercy, kindness and compassion when they suffer intensely from personal trauma and tragedy, experiences that can slowly, unknowingly lead into a deep, dark abyss!
“Dear Friends, I have experienced a tumultuous year as I look toward my 70th birthday . . . I reluctantly recognized that I was living with an emotional depression that had been dangerously deepening over the past twenty years. I felt much older than my years!
“Looking back now, the depression began with my mother’s diagnosis of Alzheimer’s and the progress of that tragic disease in her life over the next ten years. My depression was certainly exacerbated by the shock, anger and pain brought on by the priest abuse scandal that unfolded in devastating detail in Boston around the same time.
“The subsequent impact upon the Church, especially the diminished congregations at Sunday Mass, took a heavy toll upon me as I had committed my whole life to building up vibrant, welcoming faith communities in all the parishes I served.
“[A friend’s] diagnosis of ALS and the debilitating progress of that horrific disease in his life deepened my darkness. Finally, my abrupt transfer from [my parish] without sufficient time to process the impact of that major transition in my life plunged me headlong into a dark abyss.
“During the ensuing seven years I entered deeper and deeper into depression, isolating myself from family and friends . . . I knew that I could not responsibly move on to a new parish. I was not the priest I had been for forty years. I requested and was granted a health leave from ministry.
“I took up residence for five months at [a Catholic treatment center] for therapeutic treatment of depression. During those five months, with the help of the gifted staff and power of God’s grace, I regained my physical, emotional and spiritual health. I can happily assure you that I am feeling better now than I have felt in years!
“I returned to full-time ministry . . . Hindsight tells me that I should have asked for help much earlier, but men, and especially men who are priests, are reluctant to reach out for help. Priests are supposed to be the helpers! I recognize now that my depression was not a sign of weakness, but reflective of my attempt to remain strong too long.
“I have been blessed with an extraordinary network . . . you’re part of that support network. I thank you for your prayers during my recovery process. I continue to rely upon your support and friendship . . . God bless, Father Sam”
Depression, loneliness, tragedy, the feeling that the whole world is upon your shoulders, can bring any one of us down. But, for many of our beloved Catholic priests like Father Sam, they depend on our life-saving support and confidential friendship for the healing and recovery of their personal lives and the renewal of their priestly ministry.
“Count it pure joy, brothers and sisters, when you are involved in every sort of trial. Realize that when your faith is tested, this makes for endurance.
Let endurance come to its perfection so that you may be fully mature
and lacking in nothing.”
James 1:2-4
March 2020
Priests like Father Steve desperately seek your mercy, kindness and compassion to assist with their critical needs:
“Writing these words, in a way, brings back many memories. It was long ago, when people in great need would knock on the door where I resided. The stories told were as varied and as thick with pain as were the people. From eyes streaming with tears, to firm resolve, these people, these brothers and sisters, sought aid.
“The problems stretched deep into their hearts. They were looking for a second, third, sixth, twelfth, thirtieth ‘second chance.’ Never once, while listening to the stories, did I ever imagine that I would be composing a note in similar need.
“Yet, this is where I am now. My needs (to me) are great, and with nowhere to turn, I dare to turn to [MOM] which expresses concern for priests. In writing these words, I feel that the need I have may not be met, and that the depths of my need will sink further, but I must write, I must know if there is a chance that some of my needs might be met.
“In recent months, my time of “barely making ends meet” ended. Now, each day of each month, I wonder how I’m going to be able to pay the next bill, handle the next call requesting payment, send money which will keep the electricity on . . .
“In writing my request, the blame for my travail rests with me. I am the cause. I point to none other. Multiple errors in meeting my needs, and a long story, post-ministry . . . the accusing finger points in my direction. Perhaps I need be so bold as to compare myself with The Prodigal Son. Only in the midst of the slop, dung and festering menagerie did he realize where the blame was to land. In a way, this is me.
“Please pardon my diatribe, perhaps it’s not needed. Yet in my current state: bills, food needs . . . and the stress, to me, these are my ‘darkest days.’ At the ending of each month, dread begins to fill my personage . . .
“I make my paltry plea, with no knowledge as to whether this is a matter which you are even able to make any consideration whatsoever. I am one of many, and I presume there are many more in far worse condition than I. These are my brothers whom I pray for daily, and though not in contact, keep them close. No matter your decision I am grateful for your consideration . . . Thank you for your labor. Father Steve”
“The Lord is gracious and merciful, slow to anger and of great kindness.
The Lord is good to all, and compassionate toward all His works.”
Psalm 145:8-9
Ash Wednesday 2020
Our Partners in Mission prayers and generous gift of alms help priests like the 73 year-old Father Jonathan below, who are in desperate need of our prayers and financial support just to survive day-to-day!
“Currently I live in a very small room in a local motel ...
"My only source of income is a monthly social security check for $961, which covers a little more than half my rent. Social Services provides me with food stamps each month which does not allow me to purchase any prepared foods, only frozen and canned items, milk, juice, fruit and other such items.
"I cannot purchase toiletries, over the counter medicines such as aspirin or Tylenol, etc. Also, items such as rotisserie chicken is not allowed.
"With the little savings I have left, I can't afford clothing or transportation. I have no car because the insurance would be impossible. Rent is my number #1 priority and that is where my Social Security is used ...
"I am scared about what will happen when I can no longer afford my rent. And so I come to you and ask for whatever financial help you are in a position to offer. It is very difficult for me to ask and beg, but I have no other place to turn.
"God bless Men of Melchizedek for all you do for the priesthood. Fraternally, Rev. Jonathan""If a brother or sister has nothing to wear
and has no food for the day,
and one of you says to them,
'Go in peace, keep warm, and eat well,'
but you do not give them the necessities of the body,
what good is it?"
James 2:14-24
February 2020
During these frigid days of winter in the northern United States, priests living in near-destitute circumstances, some even unable to afford heat just to stay alive. As Father John’s letter below so poignantly states, without our help, he will have to sleep on his kitchen floor with his oven door open just to stay warm!
“Dear Joe,
“Greetings and good day! Rather than sending a text or email, I chose to send you this via old-fashioned mail. Perhaps the surety of expression and depth is the reason for choosing this means over others.
“In the past four weeks, I’ve sold [my] emergency medical supplies . . . Thus, my emergency needs are gone. With winter . . . and all that surrounds it, I must reach out for assistance.
“I take full blame, as I shared with you during our conversation in Michigan last October, of my own foibles.
“. . . things don’t look very good with no assistance forthcoming. Admittedly, this reminds me of 1993, when I was laicized, and every bit of funding and insurance ended immediately. Back then, however, I was able to work, and even though such was difficult to find, I found work which allowed me to “put bread on the table and pay the bills”.
“I’m reminded of the days when the winter weather outside was warmer than my apartment. The temp inside was often 20 degrees, and I had to sleep with the stove on and oven door open. With no assistance at all coming forth, I fear the worse.
“I’m reluctant to send this note to MOM, and to you, Joe, for I do not want to be a burden . . . Yet, I have no other outlet to request assistance from.
“I’m looking for not “more than needed”, but enough to address this, for me, very difficult situation. I know . . . there are brothers in far worse situations than I am. I make my request with this knowledge.
“Joe, thanks for reading of my current situation, and for considering my assistance request. Thank you and [MOM] for the labors that you are engaged in. Thank you for helping those in varied levels of need. Thank you for taking up the standard for us “lepers”.
“Thank you for taking God’s call seriously that secular, civil and religious antagonists cannot stop you from following. Sincerely, Father John.”
Thanks to all of our Parthers in Mission for your kindness on behalf of our humbled and repentant priests like Father John, our modern day Prodigal Son, who have lived decades of faithful service alone, as hermits, in a life of prayer and penance for their own sins and for the salvation of our souls.
As St. Paul shared with the Christian church in Corinth, “who is weak that I am not affected by it?”
“. . .enduring labor, hardship, many sleepless nights; in hunger and thirst and frequent fastings, in cold and nakedness. Leaving other sufferings unmentioned, there is that daily tension pressing on me, my anxiety for all the churches. Who is weak that I am not affected by it?”
St. Paul’s 2nd Letter to the Christians in Corinth 11:27-29
January 2020
In the current anti-clerical environment, Father Matt and some of his wounded brothers continue to be hounded by an insatiable media looking for the next great “sin-sational” priest abuse story. In this case, even Father Matt’s accuser is looking to cash in on “fictious allegations” to promote her own book.
“I am a priest “off the job” for about 20 years. During that time, I was able to live a life of prayer and penance. I believe that my accuser unjustly targeted me and brought forth many fictitious allegations at the time. There is no question that she had “an axe to grind” for my demise. This was 35 years ago.
“I was able to be reassigned as director of a spirituality center for priests which lasted for 8 years. She received compensation at the time for counseling. No criminal or civil charges were ever filed against me.
“I was able to achieve two small employment opportunities during these past 20 years: one as a grief counselor at a local cemetery, the second working in mental health at a local hospital. The latter position offered me stability even though it was difficult to pay my monthly housing and medical expenses.
“The diocese cut off all financial compensation around 2004.
“When the huge scandal of last summer involving the former Cardinal Theodore McCarrick surfaced, my accuser of 35 years ago contacted a local news reporter, who named the hospital where I was working. I was terminated from that employment the next month.
“My accuser’s statements were filled with false information. It was obvious her purpose was to promote the book she had written about her alleged abuse from me.
“I have tried to find employment (even though I have passed a recent FBI background check and other checks) but to no avail. I have used my limited funds to receive a license in the insurance industry, but this also had been met with no success so far (a quick Google search brings up my troubles.)
“I could really benefit from financial assistance, $385 a month would allow me to pay my housing, medical/prescription co-pays (I have type II diabetes) and other expenses.
“If MOM [Men of Melchizedek] could assist me it would be most helpful!
“Be assured of my daily prayers (and private Masses) for your ministry to priests. We certainly could use your help! Fr. Matt”
It is true that not every priest is innocent, but it is equally true that not every priest is guilty. If a priest is guilty, but repentant, seeking MOM’s help for healing and renewal, we are the first to help him in his desire to grow in holiness. If a priest is innocent, we want to be the first to come to his defense.
In both cases, we at MOM believe our dear Mary, Mother of Priests, is calling all of us to non-judgmental love and assistance to her wounded and suffering priest-sons. Our mission is not about enabling, it’s about authentic witness and prudential support. And, what mother wouldn’t remember those who helped her sons in their most desperate hour?
Do not speak evil against one another.
The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother,
speaks evil against the law and judges the law.
If, however, you judge the law,
you are no observer of the law, you are its judge.
There is but one Lawgiver and Judge.
James 4:11-12
November 2019
Our Partners in Mission generous financial support and prayers are crucial for our beloved priests, especially those suffering from mental health illnesses like Father James below. YOUR goodness provides the vital resources needed to offer them urgent supplemental funding when dioceses and health insurance programs fall short in their financial support!
“To Joseph Maher, president, and members of the board of MOM,
“Let me tell you a little bit of my background and my appeal for funding . . . I am a 55-year-old Roman Catholic Priest . . . I was ordained for the diocese [in] . . . 2000 . . .
“I requested from the bishop to discern joining the Franciscan Friars . . . in 2004. I and the order, after 1 year, discerned I didn't have a calling to the Franciscans, and so I requested from the bishop to return to the diocese.
“In 2005, after I returned from the Friars, I was never offered a permanent assignment. At that time, I was not given an assignment by the diocese, and they soon dropped the $500/month they were giving me for a while when I was helping out various priests throughout the diocese who needed help . . .
“I did have health problems but tried to help out where I could. The health problems increased, and they still refused to give me an assignment. The small amount they gave me ($500) came to an end in September 2006 . . .
“In 2009 I was diagnosed with bipolar disease disorder, and when the hospital diagnosed me as having bipolar disorder (which is a mental disorder) the diocese wouldn't help . . .
“Now the hospital has told me to live in a personal care facility. I also have fractured kneecaps, and have a crooked spine (scoliosis), and the kneecaps will put me in a wheelchair for six weeks, or a longer time.
“Without the knee operation I have the threat of a wheelchair for life . . .
“[The diocese] started financially assisting me in 2014, but not enough. It is only $1971/month which isn't enough for me to live in this personal care facility, which the hospital told me to live in.
“I pay $3220 for rent/month, and personal care. That makes me $1249/month short of what I need to pay . . .
“. . . whatever you can give would be most needed. I would appreciate it very much, pray for you, and God will eternally bless you . . . In Christ, Fr. James”
Father James’ mental and physical health struggles are terribly debilitating, but not unique. When a crippling illness like bi-polar disorder first manifests itself in our adult years, it can be extremely devastating and result in life-altering restrictions.
In Her wisdom, the Church must sometimes make very difficult decisions regarding the state of a priest’s mental health, which at times requires an assessment by the bishop on whether a priest’s mental health impedes him from continuing in ministry. With Father James, his bishop has determined that he cannot continue in ministry. However, with critical assistance from a canon lawyer in our network, the diocese agreed to provide financial help to Father James, although as his letter states, it is not nearly enough.
Now, Father James has reached out to us at MOM for additional assistance, and as is our policy, we turn no priest away, whatever the challenges he may be facing, if we have the ability to help him.
“While we have the opportunity, let us do good to all,
but especially those of the household of the faith.”
St. Paul’s Letter to the Christians in Galatia 6:10
October 2019
Because of prayers and loving financial support for our beloved priests from our Partners in Mission, when Father Tony, like The Prodigal Son, was at his lowest point, huddled up and terrified on a hard bunk of a cold dark jail cell—while a guard from the other side of the bars told him to kill himself, and having nowhere else to go for help—he received kindness, caring and compassion in his time of desperation!
“Dear Joe, I just want to take a moment to thank you and your team for the truly life-saving work you do on behalf of priests who have been removed from active ministry . . . Beyond the financial support, though, you do something even bigger. Without judgment, you accept priests in our circumstances with the compassion of Jesus in the Gospels, and you assure us that we still matter, still have a place in Christ’s Church.
“I certainly don’t have to tell you what a rarity that is these days! When even some bishops are quick to abandon their accused priests, you stand by us, fighting to ensure that we are treated fairly and humanely.
“For years (in some cases, even for decades), we priests have forgiven sinners and visited the imprisoned, assuring them that, whatever wrong they may have done, they are not cut off from God’s grace or from Christ’s love, and helping them to find a way back. Who does that for errant priests? Only you, I’m afraid.
“I remember waking up on my first morning in jail, a guard kicking loudly at the door of my cell and harassing me with reasons why I should hang myself. He made me feel that I wasn’t even worthy to be alive. In complete contrast, you reached out, time and time again, with kindness and compassion, gently reminding me that I am still loved by God, that I still have a place in the Church, that I still have something to give.
“With remarkable faith and love, you stand ready to help any priest in need, regardless of his circumstances. There are times when it is hard to imagine how I will get through another day – but then, you and your team are there, unraveling the knots and helping me to take one strand of problems at a time, patiently helping me to find solutions and move forward. For the countless hours you have spent listening as I pour out my troubles, encouraging me and giving me hope, I simply can never thank you enough.
“I know there are those who oppose the work that you do, as though it is somehow an offense against victims, and I’m sorry for the indignities you’ve suffered as a result. The reality is that ALL of us want to see abuse and harassment wiped out from the Church entirely . . . But support for priests – even priests who have done wrong – is not an offense against victims; it is an expression of the mercy that is supposed to be a hallmark of Christ’s Church.
“I pray that God will give you the courage, wisdom, and strength to continue to act in ways that are countercultural, but that are very much at the core of the Church’s mission. And if there are ways that I can put my meager gifts at the service of your wonderful organization, I trust that you will let me know. In the meantime, you are in my prayers each day, that God will give you the resources you need to continue to help the most outcast members of our Church and our society. Blessings, Father Tony”“While he was still a long way off, his father caught sight of him and was deeply moved. He ran out to meet him, threw his arms around his neck, and kissed him. The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against God and against you: I no longer deserve to be called your son.’”
Luke 15: 20-21
September 2019
When our president, Joe Maher, called Father Pat after receiving his email below, Joe found him to be, quite literally, at the end of his rope. With nowhere else to turn, in panic and desperation he reached out to Men of Melchizedek (MOM).
Like most of the priests-in-crisis we assist, Father Pat has helped so many people during his years of priestly ministry. Now, he was facing a terrible physical and emotional crisis, feeling utterly abandoned and alone, and he was too embarrassed and humiliated to ask for help for himself.
“Good afternoon, Mr. Maher,
“I am in a very bad way at the moment! Last week on my return from the local food-market, I discovered that I had no electricity. I called the associates who manage the rentals where I live. The said there were no problems they were working on, and I should call my provider. So, I did, and I was told that they disconnected my service for lack of payment.
“In my preoccupation in getting a vehicle since my old car was finally beyond repair, I had put off paying my electric bill for three months to pay for my current used car. To get my electric back on, I had to pay it all to become up to date. I asked the Holy Spirit to inspire a solution.
“Since my small Social Security check had just been deposited in my checking account, which I need all of it to pay my monthly rent and having no other money, I had to use my SS to pay the electric bill.
“As you know, prices keep going up, so just to pay the ordinary expenses, such as insurance, utilities, etc., I need a minimum of $300.00 more per month now.
“God certainly has unpredictable ways of testing and deepening my faith in His Providence. I have exhausted all other efforts to secure the extra $300 a month I now need, and have no one else to turn to! To make this worst, two days ago the landlord just gave me a 30-day notice since he is ‘forced’ to sell this place.
“I can’t find a rent for less than $1,100.00 per month, which is considerably more than what I am presently paying. I didn’t know that prices had gone up that much. So now, I really am in dire need of help.
“Would MOM please consider helping me? I don’t know where else to go if you can’t.
“Your prayers and support to this end would be most greatly appreciated!” Father Pat (Hebrews 7:17)”
And there are so many more priests like Father Pat, priest-in-crisis, wounded healers, who are reaching out to you during their times of extreme difficulty and dire need, priests like Father Ed. He offered these words of gratitude and appreciation for the hope your life-saving donations offer.
“As you know, the circumstances in which we live makes it challenging to find the kind of work that would allow us to fully support ourselves. I, for one, live pretty close to the edge, and without your support I wouldn’t make it. When a major bill hits, like an unexpected car repair or medical bill, there’s simply no way to come up with that extra cash. I can’t tell you how much more bearable life is for me just knowing that you are there and you will do what you can to help. You give me hope of being able to continue on.” Father Ed“There are in the end three things that last: faith, hope and love,
and the greatest of these is love.”
1 Corinthians 13:13
August 2019
When Father Larry called, he said he felt like the walls of his little apartment were closing in and that he had given up all hope. In this time of crisis, he turned to Men of Melchizedek (MOM) for help. And thanks to your prayers and generous financial offerings, Father Larry has been helped to move beyond the fear and terror he was experiencing. He is now renewed in confident faith and trust in Divine Providence!
“I am writing to you in sincere gratitude for the emergency gift of $500.00 that you sent to me earlier this week. Words are insufficient to express the depth of my gratitude. You literally have saved me.
“I had been involved in a car accident a couple of weeks ago which left my car un-drivable. My car is necessary for my new job . . . I really like the job, but it does not pay enough. I have scrutinized my budget and there is nothing extra in it. I am simply paying rent, insurance, car payment, phone and for a storage room until I can sell or give away all my belongings. (I moved from a big rectory into a tiny apartment and have nowhere to keep my belongings.)
“Recently I have been talking to an auctioneer and a consignment sales store to see what is entailed in using their services. This is very painful, as some of the things in storage were things I inherited when my Mother died. I also have my chalice for sale at a religious goods store. This is the most painful of all.
“I am currently looking for a part-time job for nights and weekends . . . Paying my bills is sometimes a great juggling act. In fact, even though I pay my insurance premium for my car every month, I was a little late in June and my policy lapsed by two days at the time of the accident. I was unaware of the lapse and had paid the premium that morning but apparently there is a 24 hour “download” time and my coverage did not pick up again until the morning after the accident. So the repair bill of $500.00 was left up to me to pay. Simply put, if I lost my car, I would lose my job (we have to make home visits and make monthly trips to . . .)
“It is no exaggeration to say that I was really feeling hopeless and depressed. Then MOM came as a true gift from God. Without your help I know I would now be on the street. Your willingness to listen to me, to pray with me and to be so generous in financial aid are truly a lifeline to me.
“It is very true to say I have experienced the love of God made real through you. Please know of my continued prayers for you and for MOM. May you, and your ministry know the blessings of Providence, whose agents of charity, prayer and love you are. With heartfelt gratitude and prayers, Fr. Larry”
Our love, generosity and caring support are desperately needed for our priests who have been accused, abandoned and cut-off. These are priests, like Father Larry, who have no one else to turn to for help, but MOM where they know they can count on our support to know the Providential Hand of God in their hour of crisis and urgent need.
What good is it to profess faith without practicing it?
Such faith has no power to save one, has it?
If a brother or sister has nothing to wear and no food for the day,
and you say to them, “Goodbye and good luck! Keep warm and well fed,”
but do not meet their bodily needs, what good is that?
So it is with faith that does nothing in practice.
It is thoroughly lifeless.
James 2: 14-17
July 2019“If anyone says, ‘My love is fixed on God,’ yet hates his brother, he is a liar. One who has no love for the brother he has seen
When Father Al was surprised by a visit from the County Sheriffs after celebrating Sunday Mass, and subsequently arrested because of a 30-year-old allegation, he found himself utterly alone, abandoned and terrified. Not knowing what to do next, or who to call, he turned to Men of Melchizedek (MOM) for help. And thanks to your prayers, Father Al now has the courage and renewed strength of faith to face this horrible, frightful ordeal, but not alone!
“I am writing to you to say that I want to thank you for all you are doing for me during this difficult time.
“The joyful happiness I had when I became a priest has been shared to the best of my ability over these 34 yrs. of ministry. The work that you started at Opus Bono and now continue in Men of Melchizedek is inspirational and so important that, without it, we would all be worse off than we are now.
“From . . . when we first came to talk and get to know each other, you were the only one to come to my aid, when all was thought to be surely lost. In the last months . . . you listened to me and undauntedly stood by me and came here . . . to be with me for my hearings. Each night when we talk, as you do for so many of the priests that you have taken under your wing, your love and compassion and zeal and understanding, are a definite credit to who you are.
“I am most thankful that you did not judge me as a Jekyll and Hyde, but rather as one of Jesus’ ‘broken’ priests who is truly sorry for what he did and remorseful to all those who have been affected and/or hurt. I have shared with you that I hope to see the glass right side up again when this is over, and thanks to your being there, as you have the last seventeen years, and now and for the future, I pray that God, Jesus, Mary, the Holy Spirit, and the angels and saints of Heaven give you much more Grace as you continue to stand for those fellows who have made mistakes and want to right them before God and the Church and Society.
“So, I want it to be known that the work you are doing is so very important . . . don't despair and don't give up since Jesus and Mary are certainly there in all the work that you are doing and have done. Continue the good fight, In Jesus Mercy . . . Now and In the Future. Respectfully Yours in Christ; Rev. Al, Jesus I Trust In You!!!”
Unfortunately, Father Al’s situation has become all too familiar. Every Catholic priest is now vulnerable to allegations that can be made, even from decades ago – true or false. In June, the United States Catholic Conference of Bishopsreleased the heartbreaking report that in 2018, 1,385 adults came forward with 1,455 allegations of abuse, which was up from 695 allegations in the previous year.
Every day dear and much-loved Catholic priests across our country make themselves available and accessible to countless people, and sometimes they become extremely vulnerable to allegations and accusations of misconduct. We offer our heartfelt gratitude for their many sacrifices and their selfless spiritual and pastoral service to the people of God.
cannot love the God he has not seen.”
1 John 4:20
June 2019
When Father Jim heard the news that Opus Bono Sacerdotii was transitioning to a retreat center he became worried, anxious, upset and alarmed. Thinking the worst, that all the years of healing and encouragement Father Jim had received were now lost forever, he sent us this concerned and appreciative text message:
“A note on Holy Saturday to say thanks!
“More so, I continue to keep you and your family in prayerful intercession. This is my means of connection with you, so I’ll use it to reach out and thank you for “being there”.
“A quaint phrase, but the meaning is more than that.
“For years, I knew someone was out there. Someone who cared and was available.
“Out of the blue, you offered encouragement and support; aside from family and close friends, the like I’d not encountered for many years.
“I know from your stories that I’m not alone with these sentiments.
“Where the Lord calls you next, I trust that you will follow. I would be speaking falsely if I said that the OBS connection is still there.
“Nevertheless, for so much more than you might be aware, I am deeply grateful.
“As I approach the Lord, in the Holy Eucharist on Easter Sunday, I will offer Him my gratitude that He allowed me, for a time, to know tacitly, and tangibly that someone cared. God bless you, Fr. Jim"
It’s not surprising that priests like Father Jim were anxious when they heard that Opus Bono Sacerdotii would be transitioning to establishing a much-needed retreat center for removed priests. But now, where could they quickly turn in times of crisis, fear and hopelessness, desperate for the loving, generous support that gave them the hope and confidence to go on for another day?
The times we live in pose unprecedented challenges for our beloved Catholic priests. They are often overwhelmed with distress, anxiety, even a sense of terror. But thanks be to God through Men of Melchizedek (MOM), we are be able to assist our suffering priests, like Father Jim, who have nowhere else to turn for support – sometimes just to make it through the day!
We named the mission for the eternal priesthood we serve. And we think it fitting that our acronym is “MOM”. And, we are confident that Our Blessed Lady, Mary, Mother of Priests, will grant many graces to all of us who offer our ardent prayers and personal sacrifices of love to care for Her poor priest-sons through Men of Melchizedek.
Son though He was, Jesus learned obedience from what He suffered;
and when perfected, He became the source of eternal salvation
to all who obey Him, designated by God as high priest
according to the order of Melchizedek.
Hebrew 5:8-10